I was just thinking today of the fact that so many of my 1964 High School classmates have had great adversities, some have had life cut short by illness, tragedy, or unfulfilled expectations. I suppose at graduation time, a time of celebration and joyous release from twelve years of school, would be no place to bring up the statistics of what is probably typical of what the graduates could expect in their lives. But when I think of my own 1964 High School classmates, the song by the Statler Brothers, "Class Of '57." (see lyrics below), comes to mind.
In my H.S. class there were about 20 graduates and about 100 in the whole H.S. I believe it was in March before graduation, David shot himself in his head in his bedroom. There seemed to be no explanation for his disturbing suicide. A couple of girls became unwed mothers and/or got married young and one that I know of had an abortion. Carol's 15 year-old son was killed in a snowmobile accident. Jean's husband died of a heart attack at about age 62. I remember that he was a star basketball player, a wonderful student, and he went into banking. Beth died about age 62 of a long battle with rheumatoid arthritis. Gordy had alcohol problems and died about the same age. Mike who was a year older and a math and science whiz was struck with lightning and died. Larry, a couple of years older than I, was the ND State Historian died young--not sure what reason. Steve who had become a world traveler and had "read everything", was a flamenco guitar player, died in his early 50s due to alcoholism, possibly suicide, and was estranged from his wife. The last I remember he was living with and taking care of his 90 year-old mother who, outlived him. Another popular basketball player, Ron, a couple of grades ahead of me in H.S. died due to alcoholism, possibly suicide. He and his wife who met in H.S. were divorced and she since remarried. At one reunion about five years ago I noticed that one classmate of mine had become so heavy that she could hardly walk. Another a grade or two ahead of me walked with a cane due to something debilitating, arthritis perhaps. Ole died, I don't know any details. A few classmates were divorced and some continue to suffer from the affects abusive home situations (although I had no idea about this at the time.) One who I can think of lives here in town and seems to have smoked herself into a cackly version of herself and doesn't drive a car--perhaps alcohol problems too? And, of course, most of those I knew from H.S. I never heard from again and whose fate I don't know.
This is getting to be kind of a negative post. I want to point out that the majority of my classmates became upright citizens and probably for the most part are still alive and healthy. On the bright side, our H.S. Principal, Thilda Vangstad, died at age 104. We thought she was really old when she was our principal with her snow white hair but she was only in her early 60s at the time. Incidentally, she and her identical twin sister Lena, also a retired teacher, were at one time the oldest twins in the world for a few months until Thilda died. Lena reached age 105. At our 2005 reunion everyone was talking about their 104th birthday coming up and signed a gigantic card for them as they were unable to attend. Only one teacher is still living, the librarian, who is in her mid 90s now.
Lyrics to The Class of '57
Tommy's selling used cars
Nancy's fixing hair
Harvey runs a grocery store
And Margaret doesn't care.
Jerry drives a truck for Sears
And Charlotte's on the make
And Paul sells life insurance
And part time real estate.
Helen is a hostess
Frank works at the mill
Janet teaches grade school
And prob'ly always will.
Bob works for the city
And Jack's in lab research
And Peggy plays organ
At the Presbyterian Church.
And the class of '57 has dreams
We all thought we'd change the world
With our great works and deeds
Or maybe we just thought the world
Would change to fit our needs.
The class of '57 had dreams.
Betty runs a trailer park
Jan sells Tupperware
Randy's on an insane war
And Mary's on welfare.
Charlie took a job with Ford
And Joe took Freddie's wife
Charlotte took a millionaire
And Freddie took his life.
John is big in cattle
Ray is deep in debt
Where Marvis family wound up
Is anybody's bet.
Linda married Sonny
And Brenda married me
And the class of all of us
Is just a part of history.
And the class of '57 has dreams
But living life day to day
Is never like it seems
Things get complicated when
You get past eighteen.
But the class of '57 had its dreams.